Bereavement Portraiture bears witness
to grief by representing the fullness of the life, love, and loss of your loved one. This person-centered practice is a meaning-making tool designed to foster beauty and healing for you and your family as you integrate life with loss.
While the most direct application of bereavement portraiture is for a loved one who has passed away, my practice acknowledges and supports those going through any form of loss:
• A deceased loved one (newly lost, or long loved in death)
• A loved one with a terminal illness or progressive disease
• A loved one in hospice or palliative care
• A loved one who, while healthy, is engaged with facing mortality
• A loved one who has lost a pregnancy
• A lost marriage
• A lost identity
• A lost home
• And the list goes on…
Whatever loss you are mourning, I would be honored to walk beside you and display the beauty of your grief, your resilience, and the hope of your future.
“Loss is at the heart of life and growth”
— Judith L. M. McCoyd, Carolyn Ambler Walter
Life Lived
Grief makes significant the life of our beloved, down to the smallest details. Leftovers in the fridge, a bookmark left in a novel, a pair of well worn shoes; small detritus of life which is now emboldened as witnesses to the life of your beloved.
By stepping into the stories of your beloved's quirky habits, shared adventures, and communal trials, I learn how to choose settings, colors, and expressions to reflect the life you lived with your beloved -- a life, which now unreachable, remains unmovable in memory.
Life Loved
Grief is love that can no longer be placed on its object. No matter the ups and downs we may have had with our loved one, the grief we feel is a testament to the love we had. It is a raw, vulnerable love that needs to be represented honestly,
By listening to you describe the life you loved with your beloved I am able to incorporate details which echo and embody the love you have for your lost loved one -- a love that survives death.
Life Lost
The death of a loved one is a season, not an event. Time moves differently, our senses shift, and the world seems changed. Often, events prior to, or after the death become embedded in our memory of the death. These memories, at times traumatic, at other times treasured, are an inherent part of our sacred journey of grief.
In giving place to your treasured and traumatic memories surrounding your beloved's death, I allow room for a sacred brokenness to emerge.
Gallery
1
Collect Photos
Gather photos of your loved one into an online photo gallery. A wide variety of images is best - posed and candid; headshots and full body; professional and low quality. I use these images both as reference, and as a way to get to know your family and lost beloved.
2
Recognize Associatives
While grieving, various things become inexplicably “tied” to a person - a certain color, season, or movie. These things, what I call, associatives, offer a key way for me to enter into and depict your walk of grief.
I have prepared a guide to help you identify the associatives you may carry.
3
Meet up for a Listening Time
Once you have collected photos and meditated on associatives, we meet together (virtually or physically) for me to learn more about your story of life, love, and loss with your beloved. Lasting around 2 hours, this meeting is the most vital part of the creative process.
4
Consider the Proposed Composition
1-2 weeks after the meeting, you will receive a proposed sketch for the portrait's composition. Often the idea for the sketch is developed in the meeting itself. Once the proposed composition is approved, the painting begins production.
5
Watch the Painting Progress
You will receive periodic updates about the portrait's progress as it is painted over the next few months.
When the painting is nearing completion, final adjustments to the portrait are made with your guidance to ensure a true likeness.
6
Receive your Completed Portrait
Once the painting is completed, the portrait is conveyed to you at the earliest convenience, either by mail or in person.
Framing is available upon request for an additional fee.
Testimonials
"Meredith is compassionate, thoughtful, and intentional. I have admired her work for years and was excited to work with her. My expectations were exceeded! She was inclusive and open, seeking our feedback throughout the process. It was fascinating to watch her work. The finished product is so beautiful and I love passing by my brother’s portrait everyday and saying 'Hi.' My favorite part was having Meredith sharing about the painting in person. I was blown away by the meaningful details she incorporated.
Highly recommend working with Meredith!"
- Britt Eben